Don’t Forget these 2 Steps When Introducing BDSM to a New Partner

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artworks-000014583234-7zgi8q-cropExploring a new relationship can be exhilarating, but when one partner is into something kinkier than the other it can make things awkward. Trying to convince a new partner to try some BDSM in the bedroom can take some persuading, but with a little compromise and patience it can be done.

Step One: Find out their Limits

Everyone has a list of things that they are willing to do and not willing to do. It’s important to understand what is contained in that list before starting to play. Are they comfortable with being blindfolded, tied up, spanked? Would they like to be in charge or submissive? Once everyone is clear about what they will or won’t do it can take some of the fear out of BDSM.

Step Two: Take it Slow

Once those limits have been set it’s time to play. Start out slowly, playing with one element of BDSM at a time so as not to overwhelm or intimidate. Try a blindfold, and if they are comfortable next time add some restraints, slowly moving up to a paddle or a flogger. Make sure they are comfortable at every point and try to cater to their desires. Don’t add in any surprises, leave that for when both partners are completely comfortable and at ease.

When it’s kept light and slow, and done with open communication, introducing BDSM can be an incredible addition to a relationship.